Tuesday, January 25, 2011

We’re growing up.

The phone just rang: my flight to New York has been cancelled for the second time. Thank you Aerlingus! Last December I had to leave Congo two weeks earlier than expected for security reasons. So, completely unplanned, I have been in the Netherlands for more than a month. Not only gave this time to enjoy the exquisite Dutch cuisine, it was possible to meet up with friends. And something struck me: we’re getting older.

In Oudewater - the town where my parents live - people I went to primary school with are now taking over the bakeries and grocery stores, are the town's constructionbuilders, etc. In London I met a friend with whom I did my MPhil in Tilburg: he is done, works at the LSE, and I have to call him "dr". Another with whom I was on exchange in South Africa got married over the summer. Another friend whom I know since primary school bought a house and he was talking about children. And this is only a sample. It seems we are settling down: we finish studying, get jobs, get married, and become 'real people'. I am not ready for that!

Life is too much fun at the moment: to study and learn whatever I want and have the possibilities to travel where and whenever I want. The idea of being stuck in one city, to have a proper job, etc. sounds horrible. But why? My friends seem to be completely happy. Is it New York City? The city and its people never seem to settle down. Or is it the PhD? It seems most of my collegues have the same. Or is it just that a particular type of people start a PhD? Anyhow, after being away for almost nine months I can't wait to go back to New York.

Now I'm flying this Friday. Aer Lingus: You hear me? This Friday!

I visited some friends in Ireland. Beautiful country!


  1. I used to think the same (i would never settle down in the same place, etc.) till... :) to some it comes earlier and to others later. Just enjoy where you are in your life at this point and let life take its course.

  2. Reizen, in het buitenland wonen, interessante mensen ontmoeten, en de mogelijkheid om te doen wat je wilt is inderdaad verslavend. Gelukkig lijkt academia een buiten-proportioneel aantal mensen aan te trekken die die mening delen...

    Ik denk dat je aan 'to settle' gewoon je eigen draai moet geven, dan is het ineens een stuk leuker! Ik bedoel, je kunt prima trouwen en dan naar de andere kant van de wereld verhuizen voor een PhD ;)

    - Joyce